Well, it seems my Harry Pottypants Lookalike friend (I should just call him Harry Potter, no?) likes my brand of straight talking from last week.
He contacted me late last night asking for advice on relationships, in general, lamenting on how people treat other people.
So, one margarita and some wings later, I'm doling out advice on relationships and women. Yeah, me. The one who can't seem to keep a guy. The reluctant counselor. Funny stuff.
And in turn he's commiserating with me about the state of the country and how I wound up in Jersey via a trusting heart. He apologized on "behalf of men everywhere for L's obnoxious behavior."
*snort* Easy for him to say.
No seriously, all in all, it was nice to have a guy to talk to. Particularly as it seems that Edward (or rather my lust for Edward) has left me. More on that unbelievable thought really soon.
Right now what occupies my thoughts most is that as the season has turned, so has the eHarmless potential suitors. It seems more are paying attention to their accounts. Interesting. One man whom I closed out communication with in July because he failed to respond, asked me to reconsider, citing "I think we have the potential for a connection." Indeed. Where you dating someone in July and it just ended or what?
What I really like about the guided process, being a writer, is seeing if the guys choose their own questions or go with the pre-formed questions on the site. Here is a set of interesting questions lately. I'm trying not to be jaded. Really.
1. Describe some personal habits that are important to you.
2. What do you think are the three best traits you have to offer a partner?
3. What are you looking for in a relationship partner?
Is the man hoping the woman bathes, communicates her needs effectively, and prefers simple living over a high-end lifestyle? Ding, ding, ding, tell him what he's won Bob!
I am doing my best to answer these questions honestly, with an open heart and mind. But the reality is, however I choose to answer these questions, if I don't fit into that mold they have in their mind, they're not going to give me a chance.
I'm hoping the right relationship partner wants to stay up all night, watch the sunrise, make love and sleep til noon, then check his stocks for the day, and paint my toenails in the bath while booking reservations at a fine dining establishment. Oh, yes, could he please read me poetry, give massages, play the guitar, and throw the frisbee for the dog?
Right, I didn't think so either.
Losing Weight; Finding Men
"Never make someone a priority in your life when you are just their option."