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Sunday, September 27, 2009

International Dating Week

I think I have been too busy to write down the dailies here. Which makes me snort, because I haven't been doing all that much on my vacation, because well, that's exactly how I want my vacation to be.

On Wednesday, my Tuesday night date continued to text message me with both small talk and overly suggestive remarks. I answered a few, but when he asked me if he could come over and see me, I said no. And then it went downhill from there. After a few remarks about me being a coldfish, I told him that he may have worked hard all his life but he still couldn't afford to buy some class.

On Wednesday, I also began lengthy email exchanges with a man interested in dating me....from Texas. Divorced with an 18 year old son. Wife had cancer (deja vu.....) and got hooked on pain pills. And now they're divorced, after 16 years. However, he's so eager to start dating me that he wanted to drive from Texas next week. We've only been communicating for 5 days. I told him to hold his horses. Just not a good vibe when a guy seems to want to rush things.

But International Dating Week did manage to continue...

On Thursday, I had a date with a 34-year-old man, originally from Costa Rica. Adorable smile. Great body, built like an ox. Ironically though, suffering from a back injury sustained 2 years ago. Can walk and run fine, but not for a prolonged period of time. He had to give up soccer and driving for now.

We got along very well. It helps that he likes to talk, and well, I prefer to listen. He didn't mention a thing about my weight. There's chemistry, but we only had a little kiss.

But what struck me most during the time I spent with Mr Costa Rica, is that he is SO damn happy. No matter what.

Every once in a while in life, we cross paths with someone who is so full of positive and genuine warmth. They glow with happiness and they seem to face adversity with a smile. That's what this guy is like. Bunnies and sunshine.

He thinks a 2-hour train ride to come see me is easy to do. He thinks it doesn't matter that he hasn't been able to see his mother for 7 years because he talks to her all the time on the phone and sends her money and bought her a house to live in. He always seems to see the brighter side of something and doesn't let the negative side get to him. He even told me a story about how his younger brother accidentally cut his Achilles' tendon. He said he didn't even get mad.

OK, I can understand being positive and thinking the best of life, but it just strikes me as a little odd. Anyone else know anyone like this? He's almost like a Disney character. Or something. Or I'm just too cynical.

Will I see him again? Unless something extremely odd happens, probably. But you know my life, extremely odd happens often. I don't see things becoming even remotely serious. He still wants to get married and have babies. Um, yeah, not with me buddy.

No point in even talking about baseball. Nothing really worth watching until the Sox play the Angels which won't be before October 7.


Jersey Girl said...

Costa Rica is my favorite place to vacation. Been their 6 times. I know I'm generalizing, but I always found the Costa Rican people to be warm and friendly. They have a saying, "Pura Vida." Check out "Culture of Costa Rica" on Wikipedia. They explain it. Sounds like this guy isfull of Pura Vida!

Carolina Girl said...

Yea, there is happy and then there is a little TOO happy. A part of you in jealous and the other part concerned. haha Just take it slow and easy and you'll figure out if it's worth pursuing or not. He sounds like a cutie regardless.

I'm still laughing at what I emailed you....haaaaaaaaaaaaahaaaaaaa!

Sarah said...

Being around someone who is that happy all the time can either be infectious or annoying. :)

S. said...

I love vacations like yours, where you don't do anything. In my opinion those are the only true vacations. :-)

Soxy Deb said...

No point in discussing baseball at all.
I don't know anyone like that. I think I would like it, but who knows. After a while it could get annoying.
Is this the one you sent a picture of a little while back? I know you said he was from Costa Rica so it would be a big coincidence if it's not the same guy. I thought he was good looking. Not that my opinion matters too much - lol.

MissMelisaMae said...

You handled Tuesday Night Date beautifully. What a complete dick. Funny how quickly some of these guys can turn on you the moment you tell them no or disagree with them. I hope you blocked him from emailing or IMing you. You are too good for that shit.

Texas sounds nice but something tells me that you should run. I appreciate a man that's willing to go through such effort to see you but he seems to be exuding an air of desperatness (is that even a word?) that is highly suspect.

As for Costa Rica? I say give him a shot. You don't have to marry him but sometimes a little sunshine up the ass isn't necessarily a bad thing. Especially when most things around us are turning to shit.

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