Losing Weight; Finding Men

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Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Kiss Me I'm....

....well, Scottish really, but anyway. Kiss me, I'm dying for a kiss! Kiss me, kiss me, kiss me!

(Don't know how that happened, but I'll take a pound loss.)

Everyone, you're so awesome to root for me on the sidelines of my dating world. Thank you very much from the bottom of my once romantic, now nearly jaded little heart!

Mr Listener and I went out AGAIN, last night! I don't know that that has EVER happened before. Two nights in a row? It is so easy, so casual, so friendly between us. We went and played pool for 2.5 hours. He beat me soundly 5 of the 6 games, and I came close to winning but scratched on the 8 ball. I was really so impressed that he didn't hold back, and our warm shared sense of humor bounced around the table which made the time even more enjoyable. There was definite flirting and definite playful innuendos on both our parts. Then neither of us wanted to go home (and I MUST point out for once there was NO attempt to get back to my house, get into my pants etc, which is so refreshing I can't quite describe it...) so we walked laps around the parking lot, at a slow pace, and talked and talked. He asked many pointed questions, and we learned a lot about each other. He asks important, well thought out questions, the kind a writer would ask. Which I value so much. I always ask those types of questions and most people think I'm crazy to want to know a level of detail about something that they have likely not even considered themselves.

When it came time to tally up, I whipped out my card and said "Please let me pay, the loser should pay..." and I looked at him with pleading eyes. I could tell it troubled him slightly. Pride, I understand it. So when he said "how about we split it?" I agreed. I just can't help but feel like there's no reason he should have to pay for it all when I know (and he doesn't know but probably suspects) that I'm making far more money than he is. What do you all think about this stuff? In the dating world right now, there are a lot of laid-off people, misplaced workers, etc. If the income levels are really drastic, would that determine whether or not you dated someone?

I must say by the end of our time together last night, I found him very cute and very kissable, but there was no kiss. Several hugs, lingering feel good hugs which were like shots of B12 to my soul, but no kiss. I definitely want a kiss. I want to see how it would feel.

Should a woman ever ask for a kiss? Should a woman just add a kiss to the cheek when she goes in for a hug? I hear the voice saying, "Trust me if a guy wants to kiss you, he'll find a way to kiss you." But....what if he likes a woman to make the first move? That doesn't seem right though as this particular guy seems traditional and old school in other aspects. He did say he likes to take things slow. Hmmm, maybe we should try holding hands. Hahaha, I feel like I'm in junior high school.

Have not crossed paths with Toll Booth guy, but my coworker reported seeing him in lane 4 yesterday. Oh well, fate will decide.

I went to the gym late Monday night, but I didn't go last night. Does playing pool and doing slow laps around a parking lot and laughing a lot count for any exercise? I wasn't eating, I wasn't thinking about food, and I felt a sense of happiness. These are good things for me.


Carolina Girl said...

One word: fabulous.

PS If you'd like a kiss, I say go for it. Surprise him grabbing his face lightly and pecking him on the lips. That way it'll give him the signal that you you definitely want more! He sounds precious!

Soxy Deb said...

sounds like you had a great time. I don't know if maybe I'm more outspoken then others, but I would have no problem stealing that first kiss.
I can't tell what's best for you, I just know I wouldn't have had a problem with kissing him if I felt it.
Looking forward to hearing more! And hoping there's more to hear. :)

Sarah said...

I'm the wrong person to ask about the whole paying thing. I have no clue. I always feel slightly uncomfortable when a man pays for everything, but at the same time, I'm offended if he doesn't at least offer. I'm ok with splitting the check.

Again, with the kissing question, I'm the wrong person to ask. I prefer the man to take the lead, but I'm usually surprised when he does it. I'm clueless.

Can't believe TBG hasn't called. He's edging towards TBG (the bad version).

Graciela said...

It's been 22 years since I've had a "first kiss," so I don't know what the protocol is these days. :-)

I hate to admit...part of what attracted me to my current hubby was his very adequate income level. My first hubby and I were SOOO poor (mostly because he was out of work a lot of the time, by his choice, which made it really annoying) and that it was a big stress on the relationship (along with a lot of other issues...but the money thing definitely did not help).

Anyway, I wouldn't write off anyone because of his income if I felt that person was "trying."

I, too, really like to ask in-depth questions of people no matter who they are. I think people are often surprised and flattered that someone would be that interested.

So...I really hope Mr. Listener is as nice as he seems.

Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!

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